Once upon a time, a girl met a slightly older gentleman on an online dating site. Initially, the age gap turned her off, but he seemed to have a great personality, his life was together and he made her laugh a couple of times. She decided he was worthy of an innocent lunch date, and met him at a restaurant midway between their homes. (Always take your own car/transportation). ALWAYS.
He was 35 minutes late. RED FLAG.
She waited. She shouldn’t have. But her hair was done…
When he finally arrived, she didn’t recognize him. AT. ALL. This was definitely a case of stolen pictures. EW! The girl didn’t know what to do, as she was raised with manners and doesn’t like to offend…jokingly she said, “Wow, did you use your son’s photo’s?” It didn’t go over very well.
They were shown to their table, and she became more and more uneasy. The thought of spending an hour with this stranger, who had lied about what he looked like and who knows what else, really made her uncomfortable. She listened to her gut and excused herself to go outside to “call her sister”…she walked/ran to her car and got the hell out of there.
Now. I don’t condone this kind of behavior, but sometimes it’s necessary. Listen to your intuition and remember, you don’t HAVE to do anything you don’t want to do. If he/she creeps you the hell out, leave.
If it’s just a case of no connection but you CAN stomach a drink and maybe dinner with the other person, do it. Try to find something, anything to talk about. It’s sharing a meal, you’re not getting married. Then, politely end the date and follow up with the standard–“Thanks but I just didn’t feel any connection. Good luck with your search.” email.
What? I still have SOME manners. 🙂
Stay tuned for lot’s of content this week…more horror stories, some happy stories and a special post! xo Liz
